It has become impossible not to see the fact that he is angry and miserable most of the time. His unhappiness is tangible in our house and leaves my children and I shaken and uncomfortable after an encounter. The things needed for him to be happy include several things which, apparently, he does not get here with me. Some of the things he has mentioned (very bitterly) that he needs but will never have here: a "normal life," vacations, a trip to Italy, fewer / no dogs living in our house, fewer / no kids living in our house (referring, naturally, to MY kids), "friends" (apparently he feels as isolated and friendless as he did in his previous marriage?), no toys in our living space, owning his own business where he is a photographer as opposed to working for someone else, etc.
Apparently the life that we lead, the life that he once claimed was everything he ever dreamed of, no longer "floats his boat" or makes him happy. His actions and moods tell me that it does the exact opposite. I'm not sure when this changed or if he's even partly happy here anymore. I do know that I'm past the point in my life where I'm willing to bend and twist to try to placate someone who's only nice to one person in the house anyway. My happiness is just as important as his, and to be honest, his anger, bitterness, and mean comments are wearing me down and really pissing me off. I don't deserve this shit at this point in my life, esp when I work so hard to try give this entire family a decent life.
Apparently the life that we lead, the life that he once claimed was everything he ever dreamed of, no longer "floats his boat" or makes him happy. His actions and moods tell me that it does the exact opposite. I'm not sure when this changed or if he's even partly happy here anymore. I do know that I'm past the point in my life where I'm willing to bend and twist to try to placate someone who's only nice to one person in the house anyway. My happiness is just as important as his, and to be honest, his anger, bitterness, and mean comments are wearing me down and really pissing me off. I don't deserve this shit at this point in my life, esp when I work so hard to try give this entire family a decent life.